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“There was a hermit monk living in a cave in the mountains of Japan.
He was a talented artist, and over time he painted a picture of a tiger on the wall of the cave. He was extremely meticulous in his work, and it took him several years to finish. When it was finally done, the tiger was so realistic that when he looked at it he became frightened.”
Excerpt From: Goldstein, Joseph. “Mindfulness.”
How much of our day is spent on “Painted Tigers?” In this Zen story, the monk becomes frightened of his own creation. But, not just his creation, what the creation represents. If it is indeed an image that becomes real in his mind, it could certainly eat him now or if he stays in his cave, it could eat him in the future.
Can an image kill you? Of course not, or can it?
What you hold in you mind, an image from the past that hurt you, an image that makes you apprehensive of the future will define your reality. I’ll take myself for example. Cold calling artists I would like to work with fills me with dread. Why? Any time I reach out to someone I do not know already, who doesn’t know my work, there is always the possibility of rejection, and that is a painted tiger.
I remember all the times I called people in the past and they rejected me – painted tiger. Never mind that I’m relatively successful and I have also reached out with great success. But, in the moment I don’t remember the successes, only the failures. Rationally I know why, because they cause psychic pain!
Our minds are optimized for two things: to seek pleasure and to avoid pain. Of the two, avoiding pain (like being attacked by a Tiger!) is the stronger of the two instincts, and on a primal level your mind doesn’t differentiate between a tiger and a phone call. So, it becomes easy that in our attempts to avoid pain we paralyze ourselves.
The kicker is that paralysis also causes pain. The pain of failure and regret for having not acted in the first place. It’s a vicious cycle. But, even as the cycle may have started many years ago with real pain, it is now and into your future only being perpetuated by a painted tiger.
You have a choice: You can continue to stare at your painted tigers and scare yourself into inaction. Or, you can choose to see it for what it is: an image from your past that is ruining your present and future.
By doing so, you paint over it and reclaim your power. What are your “painted tigers?” Declaring them publicly is a way to cast them aside. Feel free to use the comments to share.
Have you checked the wind direction lately?
Where are you going?
Are you still on course?
Did you decide along the way to head in another much more desirable direction than where you first intended to go, but suddenly find you are still headed towards your first destination?
Has a storm risen up, forcing you to set down for a while to wait for better conditions?
Have you followed a tributary inland and now find yourself fighting your way upstream?
Has the sea totally dried up and you find your boat aground?
After you choose a destination, it’s easy to not notice what’s happening around you if the first part of the journey goes smoothly. You think you’re focused, but focused on what? It’s easy to wait until it’s too late to change course. We have so many distractions, so many things trying to get our attention that it’s no wonder that obvious changes to the environment can take us by surprise.
Any port in a storm is often a mistake. It’s preferable to sail through the tempest. You may know you don’t have the skill set to enter the storm, but if you can survive you will have the skills forever after. No storm can then frighten you and you may even welcome them as they put you at your best.
Just be careful not to create storms where they don’t exist. They come from changing your destination from week to week because you can’t see past the horizon. That boat just sails in circles.
Check the wind direction, set the sails, push off and stay the course. But, remember that the only constant is change. Conditions may change to the degree that you abandon your ultimate destination for another. It’s life, we all need to do that from time to time, just make sure you are not compromising your truth or the desire of your soul.
So, have courage, be adaptable, watch the sea carefully and listen to the breeze as it whispers. The wind will tell you everything you need to know.
In the “Untethered Soul,” Michael Singer brings up the following concept: Picture a blind person with a red tipped white cane walking down the street. They move the cane back and forth tapping. They are not trying to find where to walk, they know where to walk. They are determining where not to walk. By staying on the middle path of their trajectory, they are staying safely between any obstacles.
We have a terrible tendency as humans to swing between extremes as we make our way. We hit obstacles at the edges and swing back the other way until we find an obstacle at the other extreme. These obstacles tend to be the sharp rocks of our own fears, biases, neuroses and perceptions. You find gossip, disrespect, paranoia, rejection and bullying there. Do you want to know why people get hysterical at work? They are out on one of the edges.
We’ve all known co-workers who are addicted to drama. Well, that drama is found at the edges. As they are getting scraped up by immovable objects, they are also doing all they can to drag others there as well. Before long, they will soon careen to the other extreme and beckon you there also. Left to these swings, a effective, energetic workplace can soon turn toxic.
There are many workplaces that will mistake this for progress. It’s not progress, it’s reactive, needless activity that in and of itself is wasted energy. It pushes people out or burns them out.
I’m not talking about the strenuous and rewarding action of forward momentum. I’m talking about impediments to forward momentum. A person on the edge is moving side to side, not forward or backward.
It’s most easily seen in our political climate. The polarization is this endless careening from side to side. One side holding their position on the edge against the other at the other edge. When administrations change sides, so do the parties. It creates intractability and stasis and it’s the people who lose. Where there is no middle, no progressives, there is no progress.
I think everyone, in every workplace, on every crew, has the best intentions of acting in the best interest of helping the endeavor be the best it can be. But, we’re human. Our natural tendency is to serve our self interest first. Once we do that, we’re headed towards the edge.
So, the trick to moving forward is to walk past the drama on either side of you and remain focused on progress. Check your own drama and correct course when necessary. In this sense, the middle way becomes the only way. If you stay in the calm middle, you can keep moving forward, even if in your peripheral vision you can see someone thrashing about on the edge. It doesn’t mean you have to join them there.
If you want to work effectively and you want to get things done, take the middle path. Beckon others there also. Take the middle path.
Let go. Yes, that’s it, let go. There comes a certain time where you have to let yourself fall into whatever it is you need to fall into. It could be organization, it could be disorganization. It could be progress, it could be regress. Only you know the answer to the question.
Anger is pointless, fear is pointless, so is joy if you are not walking to the edge and then falling through the barrier that you have set up for yourself there. This is business, this is life.
Sometimes, letting go is walking through the fire and sometimes it’s just walking away. Most of the time, the barrier looks like a dense forest that appears beautiful in its complexity, but too difficult to ever make your way through. It’s funny how we see accomplishment as pushing, pushing, pushing, when it is really relaxing into your fears and letting go of the barriers to success that exist only in your mind. The barriers that you’ve developed through years of positive and negative experiences that have taught you where the boundaries are. The boundaries appear to protect you from too much pain. But, they also protect you from too much joy, too much accomplishment and too much peace.
Walk up to those boundaries, relax and walk through. Let go.
There is a saying: be nice to assistants, receptionists and car valets. One day, they’ll be green lighting your projects.
There are many ways of doing business in Hollywood. The stereotype is the Agent as Shark. Plowing a way through the ocean, eating everything in sight and generally causing havoc. When you have the leverage, it’s easy to do that. But, with experience you learn that you should rarely do things because you can. Doing things because you can has no view of the long term. Instead, you do things that will be fair to everyone involved now.
You’re not kind to those under you because someday you may be under them, you’re kind because it’s right. Because, whether you realize it or not, when people are working under you, the way you conduct yourself teaches them how to treat those that will be working under them someday. It’s like the cycle of abuse. You can perpetuate it or you can break it.
You have a choice. You can continue Hollywood’s bad behavior or choose to take a moment, think about it, and make the choice between coldness or empathy, bullying or mentoring. Almost always, people are doing the very best they can. Berating them won’t make them better. It will freeze them where they are. In the end, if people disappoint you, you probably haven’t done a good enough job of teaching them what they need to know. Such is the mystery of power.
Kindness and understanding is not situational. It’s an operating system.
Around the WPA offices, I am sometimes called Obi-Wan. I try not to take this as the old, decrepit and hooded Alec Guinness of Star Wars, but rather, the sage, father figure and hooded Alec Guinness that is all at once serene and powerful. I suppose we all tell
ourselves the stories we need to hear.
When I was a young agent in New York. Well, a younger agent, I was prone to getting angry about the weirdest things, little things, big things, anything really. One day, I actually got a call from the head of the agency in Los Angeles, informing me that if I kept throwing my phone headset against the wall and breaking it, I would have to supply my own. Fair enough I thought at the time.
I’m not sure when I realized what a waste of time my emotions were becoming or when I realized the amount of mistakes I was making sans calmness, but at some point I turned over a new leaf. As I think back, I wonder if it was inexperience that made me angry or my fear of failure when I found myself in unfamiliar territory, or an addiction to the drama of it all.
I think I calmed down for good when one day, on a negotiation I said something out of anger to a producer, who instantly used it as leverage and not only beat the hell out of me in the deal, but then he (of course) used the comment to deride me to my client. I ended up losing that client, even though what sparked my outburst in the first place was my feeling the client was being insulted and taken advantage of. Hard lesson.
Once I turned the corner, I was left with a few undeniable philosophies:
- We’re making movies, not saving the world. We’re white collar executives, not Seal Team 6. No one dies in what we do if we are close to competent. In the movie industry, it’s only the extreme hubris of a Randall Miller that will kill a Sarah Jones. 99.999 percent of the time we are perfectly safe.
- If your client will walk away from a negotiation, you can go hard because you have all the leverage. If your client is desperate, you’ll have to accept what they give you and there’s no use in being upset about it. Supply and demand.
- At this point I’ve seen so many people get into trouble through their emotions that it’s hard to miss the lesson. I have passed on so many clients after hearing their reputation as a screamer on set or unreasonable in negotiations. It means at the least that they don’t understand principles 1 or 2. At the most, they are just assholes. In a business based on repeat business, they will have a short shelf life. Sometimes, they are in the “so talented, they’ll be around forever category.” But, that just puts them in my “life’s too short category.”
I’m left with the image of Abe Vigoda’s Tessio in the Godfather as they put him in the car to drive him to his execution. They told him it wasn’t personal. It was just business and he understood with a resigned calmness. For him, it was life and death, well pretend life and death anyway, but again, in the end it was just business.
Now, when things start to get heated at work, I take an imaginary step to the left and let the other person’s emotion pass by me instead of through me. If there’s one thing I know for certain, it’s that the person who is more emotionally invested ALWAYS loses a negotiation. It’s a simple success model, be the calm one.
I have a scar on the knuckle of my left thumb. I got it when I was in 7th grade and it was the first of many. It’s very faint now 40+ years later but it’s still there. There was a kid in my neighborhood named John Coakley. He was two years older than me and he had a penchant for terrorizing younger kids. One day, outside a store in town, I came upon him pushing around a friend that was a year younger than me. I stepped in the middle and told him to stop it. He asked: “What are you going to do about it?” I hit him with a solid roundhouse from the left side and I caught him square in the teeth. Unfortunately for John, he didn’t expect that particular answer from a smaller kid, but he also wore braces and I think he assumed the unwritten law of “no hitting kids with braces” was in effect. It wasn’t. So the blow ripped open the inside of his mouth as well as my thumb. He ran off yelling at me with blood flowing into his hands. He never bothered us again.
All these years later, I have plenty more scars. Physical, emotional and even spiritual I suppose. I was reminded of it this morning when I got out of the shower and looked in the mirror. I had surgery for a separated shoulder three weeks ago so I have a beauty now. About 4 inches long, red and angry looking. It runs from the top of my shoulder down almost to the top of my chest. The result of another misadventure between man and horse.
I have some on my right shoulder from a Labrum repair, a few on my stomach from Gallbladder surgery and others here and there that I don’t even remember how they came about.
It begs the broader question: what are the cost of my scars? See, horseback riding is a contact sport. Contact with the ground, with hooves, with dicey terrain and gaps in my horsemanship. The Gallbladder scars? Bad eating habits. My emotional scars are from incessant worrying about my wife and children, the death of my father, mistakes, rejections, business failures and stepping up to do the right thing when I knew it would hurt my business and my finances.
But, now I realize that every scar means something to me. It’s the cost of standing up to a bully. It’s the cost of having the sense of adventure to get back on horses that invariably will throw you into the woods now and again. It’s the cost of doing business with integrity when others can’t or won’t, and those people will find the justification to call you inhuman, ruthless and worse when you show them the door. They will multiply your scars by poisoning what they can long after. It’s the cost of loving someone who won’t be here forever and that particular scar will be where no one else can see or understand it. That scar is on your heart.
I’m proud of my scars. I’ve earned them. They mean that I tried. They mean I stood for something. They mean I’ve loved some people and said goodbye to others. They mean I had courage and I wasn’t afraid to fall down and fail. And all those things put together ultimately lead to a successful life.
So, a big thanks John Coakley. I hope you learned something from your scar too.
I have decided that I am a citizen of the world. Coming off of St. Patrick’s day where my Irish American wife and my Irish American self scoured the southern California countryside for a decent corned beef and cabbage (and settled instead for King Crab legs) I have decided that I am not Irish.
Even though my great grandmother Clara Riordan, arrived from County Cork in the 1890’s I am not Irish. Even though my great great grandfather Jacob Jacob arrived from Prussia in the 1870’s I am not German or Jewish as he probably was. I’m not Italian like my great grandfather on my Mother’s side Joe Rosso, or even Canadian/American (is that a thing?) as would make me as my Dad’s mother, Myrtle Beck was born in Montreal, her grandparents (the Hoopers) were a British immigrant and Italian immigrant to Canada. With so much other stuff in me I’m not even sure I’m American. Well, I am technically American as I was born just outside of Boston and at last glance it was and still is a part of the USA. It’s just very confusing and I can’t commit to it any longer.
I was brought up Catholic, though I gave it up for Lent one time and never started up again. I played music in Evangelical churches for years, but it turned out that I’m not Republican enough, fundamentalist enough, conservative enough nor insular enough to really make a go of it. I did have fun with some Methodists for a time, they’re cool. I like Rumi and Lao Tsu and meditation, but I’m pretty sure I would wash out of the monastery life very quickly. I am a Citizen of the World.
I don’t want to “Make America White Again,” I mean “Great Again” as the idiot child of moron parents, Donald Trump wants to do. The message is Fascist, oppressive and makes people want to hit each other. His policies (if one can be accurately located) are probably in and of themselves the reasonings that my dear ancestors were escaping from in their homeland and making their way to the new world in the first place. Can you hear the hum of the millions of immigrant bodies spinning in their graves all over Brooklyn? I can.
This is a business blog right? What does this have to do with anything? Only everything. I’m an International Business Person. I travel abroad regularly. I have clients and partners all over the world. I have to think multi-culturally and globally. I have to get along in different environments with people who have very different backgrounds than me, and do you know what? It’s not hard, because by and large, people the world over think the same way and want to get to know me, understand me and do business with me.
I’m still learning of course. I got in trouble at a fancy London social club a few years back because I had improperly placed my silverware on my plate at the end of the meal. This resulted in the Lebanese waiter rebuking me on proper British table etiquette, which resulted in my British hosts getting really (yet politely) pissed at the waiter.
Conversely, the first time I was in Poland, I went in search of Pierogies. I pointed to the real thing on a menu and the non-english speaking waitress flagged down someone to tell me that if I ate what I had chosen, it would make my Gringo stomach drop through my shoes. She chose something lighter in the Pierogi family for me and I felt like Chopin on a Saturday afternoon break. She was beaming that she had saved me from death by potato dumpling.
Do you know what I like? Advertising with inter-racial families, same sex families and that PSA where people are looking at a giant X-Ray of other people behind a screen that turn out to be all kinds of combinations when they come out from behind. They are all as much of a genetic, nationalistic, spiritual Mutt as I am. As we all are. After millions of generations, aren’t we all just this caldron of DNA goo? The same stuff in slightly different variations?
So there you have it. I renounce every bloodline corpuscle in my body in pursuit of being a Citizen of the World. I don’t want to have to fit into the box of being American or Irish/American or Italian, German, Swahili/Eskimo, or whatever else worked its way in there over the eons. I’m a Citizen of the World. Maybe I’m naive to think it’s possible, but if enough of us start to think this way, do business this way, maybe life and business will be in better shape. Maybe xenophobes will have a harder time coming to power.
If I’m wrong? If Trump wins? I’m one quarter Canadian. I’ll write you from Vancouver, eh?
Once again, it’s a new year. OK, a little past New Years. I’ve been kind of busy lately (I’ll get to that in a blog post next week). Anyway, Is it going to be a fresh beginning? Is it going to be more of the same? Well, that’s always the question isn’t it? Maybe not for some people, but I think that if you can’t point to lessons you’ve learned and acknowledge that wherever you are, whatever you’re doing, you’re learning. If you are paying attention, you can avoid making the mistakes of the past. If it seems like you’re not learning, you’re just not paying attention.
Over the holidays, I take time to reflect. Not just on the last year, but I think about what I’ve done over a course of many years to get where I am (wherever that is). It’s a process and there have been victories and mistakes. Every once in a while you have to take stock and hone things down to a few concepts you know have worked for you. In that spirit, here’s what I’ve been thinking about that has worked for me.
Invest in Yourself. Here’s why: no one else is going to do it. At least not in the long term. People will invest in you so long as their short term needs are being met and so long they maintain their profit margin. So, be an owner, and if that’s not possible yet work towards being an owner. How do you do that? Invent your job and when you’re done inventing your job, reinvent it. You do that by doing way more than your job description. Own your position and commit to your evolution within it. I’m not just talking about business. Invest in your physical well being, your mental well being, your spiritual well being. Own it all. If you are not doing the investments, own it and change it. If you are doing the investments, own the process, own the failures and successes equally.
If you’re already an owner, a freelance entrepreneur, an Artist: Examine your investment. Are you constantly making it more valuable with everything you do? Or are you undermining it with time wasters, vamping, avoiding issues or excuses? Be honest and make sure you are on track.
Study and Be Curious. When the world famous cellist Pablo Casals was 90 years old, someone asked him “why do you still practice 4 hours a day?” he replied: “because I think I’m making progress.”
When I’m not studying I notice. When I’m not studying I have the nagging feeling I am falling behind. Why do I care so much? Because this isn’t a frickin dress rehearsal. I’m on stage right now. My career is happening right now. I’m mentoring those around me right now. I’m building a business right now.
What are you trying to accomplish? Are you seeking out the best information to accomplish it? Are you stretching your mind and your skill set? People who know me well, know that I am a big fan of listening to business books on my commute. I am always looking for new ideas. If I could do it all over again, I would have started and maintained my discipline of studying whatever endeavor I was involved in a lot sooner than I did. If you are not constantly bringing new ideas into your life, if you are not practicing what you choose to master, you run the run the risk of maintaining your own status quo. Essentially, status quo doesn’t exist. It’s against the laws of physics to stand completely still. You’re always moving in one direction or the other. Make sure it’s forward.
Trust Your Gut – When people say “my gut is telling me…” they are usually right. You’re gut is the outward extension of your subconscious. Our subconscious is much more in tune with how we are really feeling, because it’s not susceptible to the constant brain chatter we engage in. The key with gut feelings is to separate them from excitement and fear. After you work through your reasoning on a decision, take a moment to breathe and be silent and let your gut weigh in.
Feel Like an Imposter – I am driven by fear, I admit it. I’ve also found that it’s a good place to be. So long as fear doesn’t paralyze you, it’s good to worry that you might be “found out.” It’s good to feel not as smart or talented as people think you are. It’s the trait I find most prevalent in successful artists. It makes you humble and focused. Fear handled correctly will make you study harder, practice harder and be more driven. Confidence is great, over confidence breeds mistakes.
Take Risks “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take” – Wayne Gretzky. Usually attributed to Michael Jordan, but indeed he stole it from Gretzky. This one is very tough, especially if you have a lot of responsibility. It’s easy to stay where you’re at, do the things that got you to where you are now and maintain. You have to force yourself to step out of your comfort zone and try things that just might not work. We have two parts of the brain, our modern brain, which reasons and our primitive brain which controls our fight or flight response. Our primitive brain hates taking risks, because back when we were living in caves, if you took a risk that didn’t work out, you usually died. Our primitive brain doesn’t know the difference between a lion and making a cold call. You have to push through the physiology and risk failure. You also have to fail a lot to succeed.
In my youth I knew the theater impresario Hal Prince quite well. He once told me that only one third of the shows he produced over his career made money. It wasn’t lost on me that he he had to produce 9 shows to get 3 successful ones. He had to work on every one for years to find out if it was a success or a failure. That is commitment to process. That is knowing the math and accepting it. So, accept the math, get out there, take some risks, fail a lot and start realizing some successes.
Look to the Horizon – When I was learning to drive, I remember the instructor teaching us the concept of looking as far down the road as you can see and let your peripheral vision handle what is directly in front of you. That way you can see problems as they develop long before they reach you. This also pertains to opportunities. I’ve always been interested and excited in the future. The excitement of what’s coming. I’ve always looked down the road, it’s just now that I’m realizing how well it’s served me.
Have Some Things in the Pipeline – This is the game of what’s next? In the music industry, you can have a song, an album, a tour, but you’ll never get a record deal if you can’t tell the label what else they can sell after they’re finished selling what you have now. For every deal I’ve got, I have two more that are gestating in the background. For every move I make, I have two more long range ones that I’m working on. Some will work out in the long run, some won’t, but that’s not the point. Things worth the trouble take a long time to develop. You have to put in time on a variety of options and that’s hard when you’d like to have some instant gratification.
The truth never lives in what you say, the truth is always found in what you do – This is the most important one of all. People say a lot of things. I say a lot of things. Sometimes I’m thinking or fantasizing out loud. I do a lot less of that now, because as a leader, people tend to believe me when I say something and they expect it to happen. So, when I say something I have to back it up with action or lose my credibility. I’ve found it’s very powerful to put yourself in that position. The need to act based on my words will eat at me until I throw down and do something about it. Declarations may set a standard to be held to, but what you take action on is how you will be judged. What you take action on will determine your success. What you take action on tells the world your values, your standards and your true intent.
Good luck out there this year. Make some magic!
A decision, yes a decision. What the hell did you think I was talking about? I’ve been thinking about decisons a lot lately. We all make them all day long, so often that we treat them like all but a few don’t matter. What I’m realizing is: They all matter. Each and everyone counts. They count towards whether or not you stick to your health goals, your work goals, your life goals.
I’ve been reading The Compund Effect by Darren Hardy. I say reading, but I do audio books on my commute, same thing really. Except, when I hit a good book with lots of usable concepts, I will listen to it over and over. Much like a preschooler with the movie “Annie”. Except hearing good concepts over and over doesn’t make me want to go running into the woods yelling “make it stop, for the love of God make it stop!”
The premise of the book is: Every decision you make, good or bad, compounds. Choose to work out today? Great, you’re more likely to do so again tomorrow. Choose not to work out? More likely to not work out tomorrow. It’s the simple law of inertia. A body in motion tends to stay in motion, a body at rest tends to stay at rest.
But, it’s not just about exercise. It’s about everything you do. What you put in your mouth or don’t put in your mouth, the business calls you make or don’t make, the attention you give your spouse or don’t give your spouse, the time you spend on social media or don’t spend on social media. each decision matters because each decision leads to the next decision.
I’m no better at this than you. I make goals, then sometimes forget about them or let them atrophy. I can be good for a while, then get distracted by pressing matters and fall off my routine. Sometimes I just want to sit on the couch and stare at NCIS, ok, multiple episodes of NCIS (one from each city in the continental US if possible. They’re starting New Orleans in a few weeks!) followed by The Daily Show, Modern Family, Dancing With the Stars (yeah, I know you didn’t see that one coming) and forget about Sundays with 4 football games. I can become useless very quickly.
To fight back against my tendency towards lethargy, I try and keep on a schedule of working out my mind and my body. Another recent read is “The Power of Full Engagement” by Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz. The premise of that book is that if you want to accomplish your goals and create a significant life and career, you have to train with the intensity of an athlete. they bring up the concept of “The Corporate Athlete” and I am taking it seriously. I’m also wishing I had known about the concept 30 years ago and as a young actor and musician, embraced the idea of “The Artistic Athlete.”
If you were a golfer, tennins player, football player, etc, you would train your body everyday for hours. You would practice insesently, you would study tape, your playbook, your swing. You would prepare by making decisions to practice another hour, get a little stronger. Whatever you could do to get the slightest edge. Did you know that the difference between the #1 ranked golfer and the number 10 ranked golfer is an average of 1.8 strokes. Not per round, per season!
If that doesn’t prove that every decision counts, I don’t know what does. Yes, I know, we’re not golfers, but don’t kid yourself, we’re all in competition. The next shoot, the next deal, the next client. Are you doing all you can to compete fully? Because one thing is universal: The edge will always go to the disciplined person willing to do slightly more.
Lets start with the fundamentals. Are you getting enough sleep? Are you eating the right food in the proper amounts? Are you exercising? Are you at your optimum weight? To go further, are you studying or practicing your craft intensely between gigs? All these things speak directly to your ability to perform on a consistently high level.
The best way to become world class at anything is to set a routine. Athletes thrive on routine and we all should too. I am in the process of setting a routine for myself. It’s not perfect yet, but it’s getting better. I have one advantage that I know of. I love to check boxes off. So, I made an excel sheet with the days of the week across the top and a list of actions down the left side. Everything is listed from exercise and did I eat salad today, to certain kinds of business calls I need to make.
It’s dorky I know, but I have to say, since beginning the practice, I am sticking to my routine a lot more. It forces me to make those moment to moment little decisions that compound towards the positive and keeps me away from the little decisions that compound to the negative. Think about it. Can you make your life and career better by instituting a little routine and discipline?
Even this is on my chart: Did I write a blog post? Check, blog post written… Sigh of satisfaction.