What do you value? Your family, wife, kids, friends, filmmaking, your career? All of the above? In what proportions?
In your work, what value do you provide? Are there multiple elements to your value? In what proportions?
Most importantly, what are your “values?” I would argue that values inform what you value and the value you provide, and all of their proportions. Your values, or “how you see the world” or “what you stand for” tells the world everything it needs to know about you.
So, what are your values? What are the principles that guide your life. Mine are: honesty, loyalty, hard work and humility. You see, knowing this about myself helps me color inside the lines. When I fall outside my values (and I often do, especially the humility one) , knowing that I have contemplated and articulated the things that are my guiding principles will instantly set me straight. In any situation, I am either walking with integrity in my truth or I am not, and if I’m not, it’s up to me to get back on the right side of my values.
It’s good to take stock. Do you value honesty, yet find yourself lying a lot, even about little things, even if to just spare other’s feelings? Doesn’t matter, you have to call bullshit on yourself and get back to where you’re supposed to be. You may have to fess up, make amends and now try twice as hard. It’s worth it.
It’s also OK to have a values wish list that you are working towards. On mine would be “no-ego,” but I’m so far from it that anyone who knows me would do a spit take at the very mention of no ego and Steve in the same sentence. I wield mine like a Sith Lord with a double sided Light Saber. It doesn’t mean I can’t aspire to it, notice where the line is and work towards getting and staying on the right side of it. That’s how you start to develop better habits.
So, think about it and as an exercise in getting on the same page with yourself. If you dare, state them in the comments below. What are your values? Whatever they are, know that they will directly affect what and who you value AND the value you provide.